Random Thought of the Day:
Gay men make great friends to straight women.
What makes gay men so appealing to women? What makes my 20 year old daughter say she wished she had a gay best friend? I think first it is important for me to say that I do believe that homosexuality is a sin. The bible says so, and I believe the bible. I do not wish to debate this. If you disagree with me, then probably neither of us will change the other's mind. I will also interject that I believe numerous other things are sinful, but my job is not to judge. I will instead make a few observations pertaining to straight women and gay men.
A few evenings ago while vacationing with my family in Charleston, SC my husband ventured into a store to make touring arrangements. I decided to run into a little store called the PINK DOT. Within moments I was greeted by a little black man complete with stripped tee, scarf and painted nails. He was genuinely friendly as he showed me around the store which specialized in make-up and skin care products. After only about 5 minutes I'm sitting in a chair allowing this man to shape my eyebrows, fill them in, show me foundation and an array of skin care products. I got up looking like a new woman. As I had my mini-makeover each of my three girls entered at various times and my new friend was introduced to them and he had compliments for each of them. Was he a good salesman.... yes! I bought products I wasn't in the market for and had not intended to buy. I think I am going to enjoy the products, but would I have made the purchase if a woman had helped me... I doubt it.
I was thinking of all this after I left with my purchase, and I think I figured it out. Women have been taught by our culture that we have to compete with each other to be the prettiest, the skinniest, the most fashionable, have the nicest house and the most handsome husband... etc. Even with our best friends, unfortunately this is often times an underlying feeling. It's a real shame, but it's true. In high school I had a friend who I was sure purposefully tried to talk me into things (hair and fashion related) to make me more unattractive. Why? Because the more unattractive her friend was, the more attractive she became! We were going out. We would hopefully see boys, and my friend wanted to be noticed over me. However, when a woman befriends a gay man (not that I have loads of experience here) there is no competition. The woman gets a friend without the threat of competition to get in the way. When I was getting my little makeover I didn't feel ashamed of my eyebrows, my skin tone, my weight, my hair color or anything else. I just felt pampered and in NO WAY threatened as would have been highly possibly if a straight man had been doing my makeup.
To conclude, although I don't agree with a gay man's lifestyle I can love him because Christ loves me... a fellow sinner. I can also better understand after my visit to the Pink Dot why a girl might enjoy a gay male best friend instead of a "girlfriend" who turns friendship into a competition or a "boyfriend" who says, "I love you" but really means, "I want to control and own you."
Now, that was random! Right?
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| My Pink Dot purchase. Maybe I should have blogged about why a gay man makes a great salesperson! |
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